J. asks: How can I support my loved one's recovery without enabling their addiction? And how can I communicate effectively with my loved one about their addiction? Hi J, Those are two great questions that overlap. Let me talk a bit about enabling and the difference between enabling and helping, because they're so important. When we enable someone, especially an addict, we're doing things for them that they need to do for themselves, things that they should be doing for themselves. When we do … [Read more...] about How can I support my loved one’s recovery without enabling their addiction?
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Strategies for Preventing Burnout
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Burnout has emerged as a pervasive issue, transcending professions and seeping into personal lives, affecting individuals across various fields, from healthcare to technology, and beyond. With over three decades of experience in the healthcare sector, I've witnessed numerous colleagues grapple with the kind of stress that leads to burnout. This phenomenon isn't confined to healthcare; it's a widespread challenge that professionals and individuals face, characterized by physical fatigue, … [Read more...] about Strategies for Preventing Burnout
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Should We Move to Avoid a Trigger?
LL Asks: As my adult child gets off crack, should we move to another apartment so the room where he took drugs is not familiar or a trigger? Hi LL, I’m glad you wrote to me. What I’m hearing from your question is about how you can be most supportive of your son as he tries to get off crack, and I think that it’s terrific that you want to support him. There is nothing wrong with wanting to do that. As for moving to another apartment, if this is something you can afford and you have thought … [Read more...] about Should We Move to Avoid a Trigger?
Be a Role Model for the Addict You Love
Let’s begin to care enough about ourselves to practice the best self-care that we possibly can. That is really the way we can take care of ourselves and also be the best role models to those around us. … [Read more...] about Be a Role Model for the Addict You Love
The Importance of Loved Ones of Addicts Being United
Sheila asks: My husband and I have very different approaches to helping our son with his alcoholism, and it's causing arguments and problems in our relationship. How do we come together and agree on a plan? Hi Sheila, I see this happen so many times. We rarely see a family come to us where everybody is in agreement. We usually see families where one parent is enabling an adult child—meaning that they're giving them money, doing things for them, driving them places because the child had a DUI … [Read more...] about The Importance of Loved Ones of Addicts Being United
