B.R. asks: What are some signs that my loved one may be relapsing? Hi B.R., There's an acronym for the other word for relapse, which is a slip, S-L-I-P. It stands for Sobriety Loses Its Priority. You've got an addict who's been clean for a while, or an alcoholic, or gambler, etc. who's been clean for a while, who hasn't been using their addictive behaviour. Things are going pretty well and then... sobriety loses its priority. I've known people who have been diagnosed with stage 4 cancer, and … [Read more...] about What are some signs that my loved one may be relapsing?
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Do the same rules apply to people with dual diagnosis?
Nadia asks: Do the same rules apply to people with dual diagnosis? What if my loved one is diagnosed with bipolar with psychotic features? He is currently at the hospital. I still see him as healthy and whole inside, but he's very unstable now. Nadia, thank you so much for your question. I know for sure that you’re not the only one wondering about this issue. I love that you're saying, “I still see him as healthy and whole inside.” I hope that you'll hold on to that because he is. That's who … [Read more...] about Do the same rules apply to people with dual diagnosis?
How do you manage the feelings of impending doom?
LF Asks: When your addict is doing well, how do you manage the feelings of impending doom when you predict, like many times before, that it will go off the rails again? Hi LF, In the beginning, when families or other loved ones have the experience of an addict starting to do things differently and getting healthy and things are going well, sometimes the addict is in what we call a pink cloud. Everything is wonderful, they think they will always be in the same place, and everything is going to … [Read more...] about How do you manage the feelings of impending doom?
How can I support my loved one’s recovery without enabling their addiction?
J. asks: How can I support my loved one's recovery without enabling their addiction? And how can I communicate effectively with my loved one about their addiction? Hi J, Those are two great questions that overlap. Let me talk a bit about enabling and the difference between enabling and helping, because they're so important. When we enable someone, especially an addict, we're doing things for them that they need to do for themselves, things that they should be doing for themselves. When we do … [Read more...] about How can I support my loved one’s recovery without enabling their addiction?
Should We Move to Avoid a Trigger?
LL Asks: As my adult child gets off crack, should we move to another apartment so the room where he took drugs is not familiar or a trigger? Hi LL, I’m glad you wrote to me. What I’m hearing from your question is about how you can be most supportive of your son as he tries to get off crack, and I think that it’s terrific that you want to support him. There is nothing wrong with wanting to do that. As for moving to another apartment, if this is something you can afford and you have thought … [Read more...] about Should We Move to Avoid a Trigger?