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Candace Plattor, M.A.Registered Clinical Counsellor
Candace Plattor, M.A.
Registered Clinical Counsellor
If nothing ever changed, there would be no butterflies.

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January 8, 2025 by Candace Plattor

How can we educate young people to understand that even experimenting with pot can be a slippery slope?

Mike asks: How can we educate young people to understand that even experimenting with pot can be a slippery slope, particularly when the family doctor has said it's harmless if they only smoke pot occasionally? Hi Mike, This makes me crazy. When I was first diagnosed with Crohn's all those years ago, my doctors didn't know what to do for me, and addiction wasn't on the radar—so today I cut them a little slack. They didn't know what they were unleashing upon me. But they know now. Doctors know … [Read more...] about How can we educate young people to understand that even experimenting with pot can be a slippery slope?

Filed Under: Ask Candace Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction in the family

December 4, 2024 by Candace Plattor

What role does family therapy play in addiction recovery?

Anne asks: What resources are available for families dealing with addiction, and what role does family therapy play in addiction recovery? Hi Anne, I will answer the second one first. The role that family therapy plays is huge. It's so huge that, at Love with Boundaries, we will rarely work with an addict if their family isn't involved. Every once in a while, we have somebody with an addiction get in touch with us and say, “I really want to stop. My family isn't interested in participating. … [Read more...] about What role does family therapy play in addiction recovery?

Filed Under: Ask Candace Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery, family addictions therapy, Helping vs. Enabling, Setting boundaries with addicted loved ones

November 14, 2024 by Candace Plattor

What are some signs that my loved one may be relapsing?

B.R. asks: What are some signs that my loved one may be relapsing? Hi B.R., There's an acronym for the other word for relapse, which is a slip, S-L-I-P. It stands for Sobriety Loses Its Priority. You've got an addict who's been clean for a while, or an alcoholic, or gambler, etc. who's been clean for a while, who hasn't been using their addictive behaviour. Things are going pretty well and then... sobriety loses its priority. I've known people who have been diagnosed with stage 4 cancer, and … [Read more...] about What are some signs that my loved one may be relapsing?

Filed Under: Ask Candace Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction recovery, Setting boundaries with addicted loved ones, staying clean and sober takes work

October 24, 2024 by Candace Plattor

Do the same rules apply to people with dual diagnosis?

Nadia asks: Do the same rules apply to people with dual diagnosis? What if my loved one is diagnosed with bipolar with psychotic features? He is currently at the hospital. I still see him as healthy and whole inside, but he's very unstable now. Nadia, thank you so much for your question. I know for sure that you’re not the only one wondering about this issue. I love that you're saying, “I still see him as healthy and whole inside.” I hope that you'll hold on to that because he is. That's who … [Read more...] about Do the same rules apply to people with dual diagnosis?

Filed Under: Ask Candace Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery

September 11, 2024 by Candace Plattor

How do you manage the feelings of impending doom?

LF Asks: When your addict is doing well, how do you manage the feelings of impending doom when you predict, like many times before, that it will go off the rails again? Hi LF, In the beginning, when families or other loved ones have the experience of an addict starting to do things differently and getting healthy and things are going well, sometimes the addict is in what we call a pink cloud. Everything is wonderful, they think they will always be in the same place, and everything is going to … [Read more...] about How do you manage the feelings of impending doom?

Filed Under: Ask Candace Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction and Codependency, Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery, asking for help when loving an addict, Helping vs. Enabling, Setting boundaries with addicted loved ones

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