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Candace Plattor, M.A.Registered Clinical Counsellor
Candace Plattor, M.A.
Registered Clinical Counsellor
If nothing ever changed, there would be no butterflies.

Comfort Zones

July 13, 2023 by Candace Plattor

Are You Stuck in Your Comfort Zone?

I love the saying “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone” because until we can allow ourselves to feel the discomfort of healthy change, we will continue to choose to keep ourselves stuck. The reason we people-please is to try to keep discomfort at bay. But when we can instead learn how to handle difficult emotions and begin to learn how to use them in positive ways – learning their lessons – we can then become much more authentic and life becomes much easier. … [Read more...] about Are You Stuck in Your Comfort Zone?

Filed Under: Comfort Zones Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction recovery, Helping vs. Enabling, people pleasing, Recovery from addiction

August 10, 2022 by Candace Plattor

Yes, Change Can Be Hard – But It’s Worth It!

The way I see it, there are two kinds of pain. There is the pain that goes on and on and on - and there is the pain that hurts, but there’s a light at the end of the tunnel. When we love an addict and want them to change, we find that we need to change first, in order for that to happen. Changing oneself is often not an easy process in the short run - but in the long run, it’s so worth it! Difficult family dynamics transform and the addicts we love often also make the choice to make the very … [Read more...] about Yes, Change Can Be Hard – But It’s Worth It!

Filed Under: Comfort Zones Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction and Codependency, Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery, asking for help when loving an addict, Helping vs. Enabling

June 10, 2013 by Candace Plattor

Life Begins at the End of Your Comfort Zone: Recovery from Addictive Behaviors

Life begins at the end of your comfort zone—so true. I love this saying, and wish I could take credit for thinking it up. In my humble opinion, whoever came up with it is a genius—and when I saw it on a fridge magnet many years ago, I bought several of them to give as gifts to people I recognized as being entrenched in their comfort zones. (Sometimes it really does take one to know one.) Having given most of them away, I am now down to just the one that lives in its special place on the side of … [Read more...] about Life Begins at the End of Your Comfort Zone: Recovery from Addictive Behaviors

Filed Under: Comfort Zones, Loving an addict

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