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Candace Plattor, M.A.Registered Clinical Counsellor
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Registered Clinical Counsellor
If nothing ever changed, there would be no butterflies.

Helping vs. Enabling

May 17, 2023 by Candace Plattor Leave a Comment

Trust Your Inner Guidance

We all have what I like to call an “inner GPS” that tells us when we are on track and when we aren’t. We can know this by the way we feel inside. It’s important for us to listen to this inner voice so that we can build up both our self-trust and our self-respect. … [Read more...] about Trust Your Inner Guidance

Filed Under: Addiction recovery Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction and Codependency, Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery, asking for help when loving an addict, Healthy self-care, Helping vs. Enabling

May 15, 2023 by Candace Plattor Leave a Comment

I’m looking for help dealing with self-centredness

  My husband has been clean & sober for 20 years. I’m looking for help on dealing with addictive behaviours and self-centredness. I can’t find anything that is more about life after active addiction. Do you have something or can you recommend anything? MJ Hi MJ, What a great question! I think the same tools are important in recovery that were used when dealing with someone in active addiction: no enabling, only helping behaviours; healthy, self-respectful boundaries and … [Read more...] about I’m looking for help dealing with self-centredness

Filed Under: Ask Candace Tagged With: Addiction and Codependency, Healthy self-care, Helping vs. Enabling

May 2, 2023 by Candace Plattor

Overdosing on the Job? Naloxone to the Rescue! Part Two

Enabling vs. Helping My simple definition of enabling is when we do for others what they can – and indeed should – be doing for themselves. In my view, what’s happening on some of these worksites is enabling at its worst. At a deeper level, addicts know exactly what they’re doing – they know they’re crippling their own lives and continually hurting the people who love them. Show me an addict who doesn’t know that they now risk dying every time they use because of the toxic supply, and I’ll show … [Read more...] about Overdosing on the Job? Naloxone to the Rescue! Part Two

Filed Under: Addiction, Helping vs. Enabling Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction and Codependency, Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery, Helping vs. Enabling

May 1, 2023 by Candace Plattor

Is it advisable to provide a relative with her own apartment?

Good Day Candace, I need to know if it is advisable to provide a relative with her own apartment? She is still an active user. She is homeless. My thinking is to purchase a small apartment destined to be for my daughter to live in. The apartment will be in my name and I will write in my will that when I die that apartment is to be transferred to my daughter's name. What would you advise? Your input is much appreciated. Mariamanda Hi Mariamanda, This is a great question! While I think … [Read more...] about Is it advisable to provide a relative with her own apartment?

Filed Under: Ask Candace Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction and Codependency, Helping vs. Enabling

April 26, 2023 by Candace Plattor

Self-Care and Selfishness are NOT The Same Thing

  When we are taking good care of ourselves and others in our lives accuse us of being “selfish,” that could be because they want us to keep catering to their needs instead of our own. Be careful not to buy into that way of thinking.  Self-Care and Selfishness are two very different things. … [Read more...] about Self-Care and Selfishness are NOT The Same Thing

Filed Under: Healthy self-care Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction and Codependency, Addiction recovery, Healthy self-care, Helping vs. Enabling, Setting boundaries with addicted loved ones

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