Because the loved ones of addicts often believe they are to blame for this addiction, they have a tendency to stay silent in shame. But they are not to blame, because addicts make their own choices about how to live their lives. When loved ones start to speak their truth about this, and start to have healthy boundaries, they begin to learn how to HELP their addict rather than continue to enable—and everyone can then start their journey to wellness. … [Read more...] about Our Secrets Keep Us Sick
Setting boundaries with addicted loved ones
Navigating Addiction during the Christmas Season: A Guide to Finding Peace and Support
As the end of another year quickly approaches, the festive cheer of "The Holidays" is upon us. However, for many, this season may not bring the peace and joy often depicted in commercials and magazine spreads. This year, as many years before it, has seen its share of challenges, including the tragedies of opioid overdoses and other heartbreaking events, making the holiday season a difficult time for countless families. The pressure to maintain a facade of holiday happiness can increase feelings … [Read more...] about Navigating Addiction during the Christmas Season: A Guide to Finding Peace and Support
What role does family therapy play in addiction recovery?
Anne asks: What resources are available for families dealing with addiction, and what role does family therapy play in addiction recovery? Hi Anne, I will answer the second one first. The role that family therapy plays is huge. It's so huge that, at Love with Boundaries, we will rarely work with an addict if their family isn't involved. Every once in a while, we have somebody with an addiction get in touch with us and say, “I really want to stop. My family isn't interested in participating. … [Read more...] about What role does family therapy play in addiction recovery?
What are some signs that my loved one may be relapsing?
B.R. asks: What are some signs that my loved one may be relapsing? Hi B.R., There's an acronym for the other word for relapse, which is a slip, S-L-I-P. It stands for Sobriety Loses Its Priority. You've got an addict who's been clean for a while, or an alcoholic, or gambler, etc. who's been clean for a while, who hasn't been using their addictive behaviour. Things are going pretty well and then... sobriety loses its priority. I've known people who have been diagnosed with stage 4 cancer, and … [Read more...] about What are some signs that my loved one may be relapsing?
What Do I Need Right Now?
How self-aware emotionally do you allow yourself to be? When you know what you’re feeling, you’ll be more able to give yourself what you need. Ask yourself “Am I hungry / angry / lonely / tired?” and become willing to give yourself a meal or a snack; talk to someone about your anger (or sadness, boredom, fear); arrange a playdate with a friend; or enjoy an exquisite nap. Becoming self-aware of how you’re feeling—and then doing something self-caring about that—can help you feel refreshed and … [Read more...] about What Do I Need Right Now?
