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Candace Plattor, M.A.Registered Clinical Counsellor
Candace Plattor, M.A.
Registered Clinical Counsellor
If nothing ever changed, there would be no butterflies.

Addiction

March 12, 2025 by Candace Plattor

The “Magic Question” Can Tell You a Lot

… [Read more...] about The “Magic Question” Can Tell You a Lot

Filed Under: Addiction Tagged With: Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery, asking for help when loving an addict

July 24, 2024 by Candace Plattor

People Using Addictive Behaviours Are Making That Choice

No matter how you are behaving with someone using addictions, your behaviours do not cause that person to use. That is a decision that the addicted person makes. You did not cause somebody else’s addiction and you don’t have to feel guilty about that. The person using the addiction is the one making that choice—period. … [Read more...] about People Using Addictive Behaviours Are Making That Choice

Filed Under: Addiction Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery

July 4, 2024 by Candace Plattor

What Do Practicing Addicts REALLY Feel?

Even though practicing addicts already feel badly about themselves, it is still important for them to feel the consequences of their behaviour.  This is what helps them make the decision that living life as an addict is NOT what they want.  When we take these consequences away from them, we are enabling them and the addiction continues.   … [Read more...] about What Do Practicing Addicts REALLY Feel?

Filed Under: Addiction Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery

December 15, 2023 by Candace Plattor

Navigating Addiction
During the Festive Season

As the year draws to a close and the holiday season rapidly approaches, it's easy to feel like time has slipped through our fingers. Wasn't it just yesterday that we were welcoming September? Now, everywhere we turn, we're reminded of the joy and warmth that the holiday season is supposed to bring. Advertisements paint a picture of perfect families, generous giving, and festive cheer. But the reality is often far from this idealized image. This year, like the last, and the one before, has been … [Read more...] about Navigating Addiction
During the Festive Season

Filed Under: Addiction Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery, loving an addict, Setting boundaries with addicted loved ones

November 8, 2023 by Candace Plattor

The Vicious Cycle of Low Self-Respect

Self-respect is an ‘inside job’ – we develop it by doing the next right thing for ourselves and then the next right thing after that. I can’t give you your self-respect and you can’t give me mine. But we can encourage each other to take the best care of ourselves that we can, because active addiction and self-respect cannot coexist. I know which one I choose today – how about you? … [Read more...] about The Vicious Cycle of Low Self-Respect

Filed Under: Addiction Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction recovery, self-respect

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