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November 24, 2023 by Candace Plattor Leave a Comment

The 2023 CCSA Issues of Substance Conference

After a four-year break from in-person conferences, the Canadian Centre on Substance Use & Addiction returned with its Issues of Substance conference—this time at the Convention Centre in beautiful downtown Vancouver, BC! The event was held from November 20th to 22nd. At Love With Boundaries, we knew that we needed to be a part of this amazing collaboration of research and ideas in the field of Addiction, Mental Health and Recovery, so we packed up our offices and headed down there for … [Read more...] about The 2023 CCSA Issues of Substance Conference

Filed Under: Addiction recovery Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery

November 22, 2023 by Candace Plattor Leave a Comment

Have you reached a bottom with your own enabling behaviours?

Just like an addict needs to reach some kind of bottom to finally make the choice to change, it is the same for loved ones of addicts. If enabling the addict you love is not bringing the results you want to see, then you may want to ask yourself if you’re ready to make a different choice. … [Read more...] about Have you reached a bottom with your own enabling behaviours?

Filed Under: Helping vs. Enabling Tagged With: Addiction and Codependency, Addiction recovery, Helping vs. Enabling, loving an addict

November 8, 2023 by Candace Plattor 2 Comments

The Vicious Cycle of Low Self-Respect

Self-respect is an ‘inside job’ – we develop it by doing the next right thing for ourselves and then the next right thing after that. I can’t give you your self-respect and you can’t give me mine. But we can encourage each other to take the best care of ourselves that we can, because active addiction and self-respect cannot coexist. I know which one I choose today – how about you? … [Read more...] about The Vicious Cycle of Low Self-Respect

Filed Under: Addiction Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction recovery, self-respect

October 25, 2023 by Candace Plattor

Enabling an Addict is Never a Loving Act

When we put the desires of the addict we love ahead of our own needs on a consistent basis, we are not actually helping the addict. They need to learn how to take care of themselves and develop their own resiliency and self-respect. If we continually rescue them from dealing with the realities of life, they will have absolutely no incentive to choose recovery from addiction. We need to love them enough to do what’s right for them – no more enabling! – even if that’s hard for us. … [Read more...] about Enabling an Addict is Never a Loving Act

Filed Under: Helping vs. Enabling Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction and Codependency, Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery, Helping vs. Enabling, loving an addict, Setting boundaries with addicted loved ones

October 11, 2023 by Candace Plattor

Who Are You Taking Care of First?

When we are in an airplane, we are told that if the oxygen masks come down, we need to put our own mask on first. How tempting it is sometimes to want to do just the opposite! But if we can’t breathe, we can’t help anyone else breathe. We need to take care of ourselves on an ongoing basis in order to be able to give to anyone else in healthy ways. … [Read more...] about Who Are You Taking Care of First?

Filed Under: Healthy self-care Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction recovery, Healthy self-care, Setting boundaries with addicted loved ones

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