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Candace Plattor, M.A.Registered Clinical Counsellor
Candace Plattor, M.A.
Registered Clinical Counsellor
If nothing ever changed, there would be no butterflies.

Self-care

January 29, 2025 by Candace Plattor

Spiritual Self-Care

When trying to figure out what your Spiritual self-care should be, take a look at what makes sense to you and go from there. There is no right or wrong way to do this – and you are spiritually safe right where you are. … [Read more...] about Spiritual Self-Care

Filed Under: Self-care Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction recovery, Healthy self-care

January 8, 2025 by Candace Plattor

Accepting “What Is”, Even When It’s Difficult

It is important to accept where we are when we love an addict. Self-Care is the most important goal to have – it will help you and it will become better role-modelling for the addict you love. Increasing your Self-Care is truly the best thing you can do for yourself and for everyone around you – a true win-win! … [Read more...] about Accepting “What Is”, Even When It’s Difficult

Filed Under: Self-care Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction recovery, Healthy self-care

October 2, 2024 by Candace Plattor

What Do I Need Right Now?

How self-aware emotionally do you allow yourself to be? When you know what you’re feeling, you’ll be more able to give yourself what you need. Ask yourself “Am I hungry / angry / lonely / tired?” and become willing to give yourself a meal or a snack; talk to someone about your anger (or sadness, boredom, fear); arrange a playdate with a friend; or enjoy an exquisite nap. Becoming self-aware of how you’re feeling—and then doing something self-caring about that—can help you feel refreshed and … [Read more...] about What Do I Need Right Now?

Filed Under: Addiction recovery, Self-care Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery, Healthy self-care, Setting boundaries with addicted loved ones

August 9, 2023 by Candace Plattor

What are you role modelling for the addict you love?

  When we role model self-care and self-respect, rebuilding our own lives instead of putting everyone else’s needs ahead of our own, the addict in our lives sits up and takes notice. As you begin to experience more joy and satisfaction in your life, different choice by different choice, you open the possibility for your addicted loved one to choose to do the same thing in their life. Is there a better example of a win-win than that? … [Read more...] about What are you role modelling for the addict you love?

Filed Under: Self-care, Self-Respect Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction and Codependency, Healthy self-care, Helping vs. Enabling, Setting boundaries with addicted loved ones

June 28, 2023 by Candace Plattor

The Changing Face of Self-Care

For those of us who grew up in dysfunctional families, practicing holistic self-care and putting our own needs first was fleeting at best. That’s because, as children, so much of our time had to be spent on staying “safe” – and this often meant that we had to focus on making others feel good. As adults, we can shift that today. When we become aware of needing to caretake someone else, we can change direction and begin to focus on ourselves so that WE can feel good. … [Read more...] about The Changing Face of Self-Care

Filed Under: Self-care Tagged With: Addiction and Codependency, Healthy self-care, loving an addict, self-care, Setting boundaries with addicted loved ones

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