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Candace Plattor, M.A.Registered Clinical Counsellor
Candace Plattor, M.A.
Registered Clinical Counsellor
If nothing ever changed, there would be no butterflies.

Recovery from addiction

Are You Stuck in Your Comfort Zone?

I love the saying “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone” because until we can allow ourselves to feel the discomfort of healthy change, we will continue to choose to keep ourselves stuck. The reason we people-please is to try to keep discomfort at bay. But when we can instead learn how to handle difficult emotions and begin to learn how to use them in positive ways – learning their lessons – we can then become much more authentic and life becomes much easier. … [Read more...] about Are You Stuck in Your Comfort Zone?

Filed Under: Comfort Zones Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction recovery, Helping vs. Enabling, people pleasing, Recovery from addiction

Matthew Perry: Addiction and Recovery

Okay, I’ll admit it – I’m a “Friends” fan. I have been since its inception so many years ago, and I’ve been known to watch a rerun every now and then. That show told an amazing story of six young people with very different personalities, values, and opinions who simply loved each other through all of it and would always have each other’s backs. It was funny and heartwarming, all at the same time. My favourite character was Chandler Bing – I loved his irreverent sense of humour and, let’s face … [Read more...] about Matthew Perry: Addiction and Recovery

Filed Under: Addiction recovery Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction recovery, Helping vs. Enabling, Recovery from addiction

Are You a People-Pleaser?

People-pleasers tend to care more about what others think of them than about how they truly feel about themselves. Shifting out of this dysfunctional pattern requires being patient and gentle with ourselves, as we learn to treat ourselves with more care and self-respect. … [Read more...] about Are You a People-Pleaser?

Filed Under: Addiction and Codependency Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery, Helping vs. Enabling, loving an addict, Recovery from addiction, Setting boundaries with addicted loved ones

Yet Another Addiction Strategy from the BC Government: Is This the Best You’ve Got?

I am a proud Canadian and an even prouder Vancouverite. But when I heard that our government was going to “help” drug addicts by making possession of a small amount of opiates and other street drugs legal – ostensibly so that addicts would use together instead of in isolation and somehow, someway, protect each other from overdosing – I felt absolutely enraged. My immediate question for them was “Is this the best you’ve got?” THIS is their solution to the toxic drug overdose epidemic we’ve been … [Read more...] about Yet Another Addiction Strategy from the BC Government: Is This the Best You’ve Got?

Filed Under: Recovery from addiction Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction and Codependency, Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery, codependency, Helping vs. Enabling, Recovery from addiction

You CAN Live Conflict-Free When You Love an Addict

When we learn how to deal with other people’s anger, frustration or disappointment toward us, we can then become emotionally free to be our authentic selves. … [Read more...] about You CAN Live Conflict-Free When You Love an Addict

Filed Under: Helping vs. Enabling Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction and Codependency, Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery, Helping vs. Enabling, loving an addict, Recovery from addiction

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