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Candace Plattor, M.A.Registered Clinical Counsellor
Candace Plattor, M.A.
Registered Clinical Counsellor
If nothing ever changed, there would be no butterflies.

Recovery from addiction

March 18, 2025 by Candace Plattor

Reborn in Recovery:
A New Life Beyond Addiction

by Christine Zitscher Spring is almost upon us and I for one could not be happier about that! As the dark, gloomy days of winter begin to subside, I am filled with new energy and optimism. New life begins to appear with the tiny buds that blossom on the trees, and the baby starlings I hear out my bedroom window every morning provide me with a sense of hope about the future. After all, spring is the season of rebirth, and it’s a reminder to me that there is always a chance to start again.  I … [Read more...] about Reborn in Recovery:
A New Life Beyond Addiction

Filed Under: Addiction recovery Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery, asking for help when loving an addict, Recovery from addiction

April 19, 2024 by Candace Plattor

It’s Okay to Ask for Help!

There is a wonderful saying that tells us “Our secrets keep us sick.”  Many loved ones of addicts don’t talk about their struggles or reach out for help because of the shame they feel for being in this situation.  But until we ask for and receive the help we need, we don’t learn how to do things differently. Recovery begins with self-awareness and with the willingness to ask for assistance when we need it. … [Read more...] about It’s Okay to Ask for Help!

Filed Under: Addiction recovery Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery, asking for help when loving an addict, Helping vs. Enabling, loving an addict, Recovery from addiction

February 14, 2024 by Candace Plattor

The Concept of “Choice” in Addiction

Having compassion for the addict you love does not mean that you continue to enable them. Enabled addicts do not recover – because, really, why should they if others are going to do everything for them? Having compassion means learning how to be emotionally healthy in your relationship with your addicted loved one, so that both of you – and your whole family – can truly recover. … [Read more...] about The Concept of “Choice” in Addiction

Filed Under: Addiction recovery Tagged With: Addiction recovery, Helping vs. Enabling, loving an addict, Recovery from addiction

December 20, 2023 by Candace Plattor

The Important Downside of “Powerlessness”

The only reason that millions of us are in recovery from addiction is because we have made the CHOICE, over and over again, one day at a time, to be in recovery. If that wasn’t the case, those of us who are in recovery would still be in active addiction – or we would have died from our addiction. Recovery is a choice, plain and simple. … [Read more...] about The Important Downside of “Powerlessness”

Filed Under: Addiction recovery Tagged With: Addiction recovery, asking for help when loving an addict, Helping vs. Enabling, Recovery from addiction

July 13, 2023 by Candace Plattor

Are You Stuck in Your Comfort Zone?

I love the saying “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone” because until we can allow ourselves to feel the discomfort of healthy change, we will continue to choose to keep ourselves stuck. The reason we people-please is to try to keep discomfort at bay. But when we can instead learn how to handle difficult emotions and begin to learn how to use them in positive ways – learning their lessons – we can then become much more authentic and life becomes much easier. … [Read more...] about Are You Stuck in Your Comfort Zone?

Filed Under: Comfort Zones Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction recovery, Helping vs. Enabling, people pleasing, Recovery from addiction

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