Because the loved ones of addicts often believe they are to blame for this addiction, they have a tendency to stay silent in shame. But they are not to blame, because addicts make their own choices about how to live their lives. When loved ones start to speak their truth about this, and start to have healthy boundaries, they begin to learn how to HELP their addict rather than continue to enable—and everyone can then start their journey to wellness. … [Read more...] about Our Secrets Keep Us Sick
Helping vs. Enabling
What role does family therapy play in addiction recovery?
Anne asks: What resources are available for families dealing with addiction, and what role does family therapy play in addiction recovery? Hi Anne, I will answer the second one first. The role that family therapy plays is huge. It's so huge that, at Love with Boundaries, we will rarely work with an addict if their family isn't involved. Every once in a while, we have somebody with an addiction get in touch with us and say, “I really want to stop. My family isn't interested in participating. … [Read more...] about What role does family therapy play in addiction recovery?
The Transformative Power of Recovery Month: Understanding, Helping, and Celebrating
Every September, Recovery Month offers us a poignant reminder of the challenges, triumphs, and ongoing journey of individuals and families navigating the path of addiction recovery. It's a time to reflect on the impact of substance use disorders, celebrate the strength of those who have chosen the path of recovery, and acknowledge the vital support of families and communities in this journey. My personal story, from a harrowing 15-year battle with opioid addiction to over 37 years of sobriety … [Read more...] about The Transformative Power of Recovery Month: Understanding, Helping, and Celebrating
What Do We REALLY Have Control Over?
Although it’s hard for most people to realize they really have no control over other people, we keep trying anyway! The only person any of us have control over is ourselves—over our choices and decisions. Once we truly accept this, life gets much easier. … [Read more...] about What Do We REALLY Have Control Over?
How do you manage the feelings of impending doom?
LF Asks: When your addict is doing well, how do you manage the feelings of impending doom when you predict, like many times before, that it will go off the rails again? Hi LF, In the beginning, when families or other loved ones have the experience of an addict starting to do things differently and getting healthy and things are going well, sometimes the addict is in what we call a pink cloud. Everything is wonderful, they think they will always be in the same place, and everything is going to … [Read more...] about How do you manage the feelings of impending doom?
