Q: And how do you balance raising the issue or concern with showing empathy and not damaging the relationship? How do you encourage them to get help? The short answer to all of your wonderful questions is: “Very carefully.” I remember when I was still using, many years ago, and a colleague of mine who was also my friend let me know that she thought I had a problem. I don't remember exactly what she said, but because of the person she is I'm sure she had love in her heart when she said that … [Read more...] about How can a colleague or a friend raise a concern about suspicions of addiction?
Addiction recovery
How Can We Educate Young People About Pot?
Q: How can we educate young people to understand that even experimenting with pot can be a slippery slope, particularly when the family doctor has said it's harmless if they only smoke pot occasionally? Doctors are amazing people, and I have some great doctors now. I've also had some not-so-great doctors over the years as well. The truth is that doctors simply don't know everything. For a doctor in today’s world to say that smoking pot – even occasionally – is fine, is just wrong. I used to … [Read more...] about How Can We Educate Young People About Pot?
The Concept of “Choice” in Addiction
Having compassion for the addict you love does not mean that you continue to enable them. Enabled addicts do not recover – because, really, why should they if others are going to do everything for them? Having compassion means learning how to be emotionally healthy in your relationship with your addicted loved one, so that both of you – and your whole family – can truly recover. … [Read more...] about The Concept of “Choice” in Addiction
Valentine’s Day Reimagined:
From Codependency to Self-Love
Time flies, and just like that, we're on the cusp of another Valentine's Day. Reflecting on my past, I recall how this day used to be a source of dread. As someone who grappled with codependency, I either found myself in a tumultuous relationship or alone, yearning for companionship—and flowers!
Valentine's Day was a stark reminder of my self-worth struggles.
Embracing Self-Care on Valentine's Day:
The Valentine's Day Conundrum
I remember the Valentine's Days spent in challenging … [Read more...] about Valentine’s Day Reimagined:
From Codependency to Self-Love
All Change Begins with Self-Awareness
Emotional maturity is what we develop when we take the time to know ourselves more deeply. When we aren’t self-aware in a problematic situation, many of us will reach for a drug or a drink – or some other kind of addictive behaviour. In my experience, I’ve found that it’s actually easier to do the inner work it takes to live with self-awareness and self-respect, rather than to stay stuck in addiction. Please reach out for help doing this, whenever you need it – although we each need to do our … [Read more...] about All Change Begins with Self-Awareness
