Andrea asks: How do we deal with the shame that comes from living with an addict and feeling like their addiction is now also a reflection of who we are? It is so painful to be misunderstood and shamed when it's somebody else's behaviour that has caused our pain in the first place. Hi Andrea, That’s a fantastic question, and so many people feel what this person is asking about. This question is about feeling shame around what the addict in your life is doing. I believe all loved ones … [Read more...] about How do we deal with the shame that comes from living with an addict?
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The Top 10 Reasons to Stop Enabling the Addict You Love
Addiction can take many forms, from mind-altering substances to mood-altering behaviours, and almost everyone on the planet today is either affected by addiction—their own or someone else’s—or they know someone who is. For an addict to have a chance to recover, changes need to happen with their loved ones first. Until a friend or family member changes what they’re doing, it’s unlikely that the addict in their lives will. Loved ones need to let their addicts know that they will not support them … [Read more...] about The Top 10 Reasons to Stop Enabling the Addict You Love
The Transformative Power of Recovery Month: Understanding, Helping, and Celebrating
Every September, Recovery Month offers us a poignant reminder of the challenges, triumphs, and ongoing journey of individuals and families navigating the path of addiction recovery. It's a time to reflect on the impact of substance use disorders, celebrate the strength of those who have chosen the path of recovery, and acknowledge the vital support of families and communities in this journey. My personal story, from a harrowing 15-year battle with opioid addiction to over 37 years of sobriety … [Read more...] about The Transformative Power of Recovery Month: Understanding, Helping, and Celebrating
What Do We REALLY Have Control Over?
Although it’s hard for most people to realize they really have no control over other people, we keep trying anyway! The only person any of us have control over is ourselves—over our choices and decisions. Once we truly accept this, life gets much easier. … [Read more...] about What Do We REALLY Have Control Over?
Are You Filling Your Tank?
Can you recall a time when you needed to take care of yourself in some way, but instead decided to put the needs of others first? How did you explain that decision to yourself? Do you believe those you took care of ahead of yourself would have suffered if you hadn’t done that? Did you suffer as a result of not meeting your own needs? … [Read more...] about Are You Filling Your Tank?
