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Candace Plattor, M.A.Registered Clinical Counsellor
Candace Plattor, M.A.
Registered Clinical Counsellor
If nothing ever changed, there would be no butterflies.

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July 11, 2022 by Candace Plattor

If my daughter leaves rehab, what do I do?

  M.T. asks: My daughter is in rehab but is saying she might not stay. I’ve been paying her rent for a while and I’m continuing to do that while she’s there. If she leaves, what do I do? Hi M.T., The main message here is that you will no longer support her addiction but you will support her recovery. If she leaves treatment against the advice of the staff there, then out of a place of love for her, you can tell her you will no longer be paying her rent. If you enable her in any way, … [Read more...] about If my daughter leaves rehab, what do I do?

Filed Under: Ask Candace Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction and Codependency, Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery, asking for help when loving an addict, Helping vs. Enabling, Setting boundaries with addicted loved ones

July 4, 2022 by Candace Plattor

What do you mean when you say that addiction is a “choice”?

  Annie asks: What do you mean when you say that addiction is a “choice”? Hi Annie – great question! I don’t believe that anyone chooses to become an addict – I know I didn’t. And in fact, most addicts never think they will be the ones to become addicted – that’s for the other guy. So I don’t believe that anyone signs up for Addiction 101, thinking “Yes, let’s be an addict, that will be fun!” But in every addict’s life, there comes a time when they know their lives are a mess. They look … [Read more...] about What do you mean when you say that addiction is a “choice”?

Filed Under: Ask Candace Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction and Codependency, Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery, Choice point to stop addiction

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