We wanted to offer a thought-provoking analogy, if you love an addict. See if it fits for you. The “big rocks” analogy was created by the late Steven Covey, who wrote The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. The analogy relates well to being a loved one of a person struggling with addiction because our time, energy and resources often go to helping the person we love. Imagine having these supplies on your kitchen counter: A jar Some big rocks (e.g. the size of an egg) Some … [Read more...] about Self-Care Strategies… if You Love an Addict
Healthy self-care
Assertiveness
M.S. asks: I have a relative I’m very close to. I already know he is not good at emotional regulation, and he talks loudly. I try to calm down, but if it's a sensitive and hard subject, I feel like he's yelling at me or telling me what to do. So I get worked up, and then both of us are emotionally unregulated. How can I bring myself down to a calmer state? This person is staying with me. Hi M.S., He’s there 24/7, so that's an interesting situation to be in. I think that you can tell your … [Read more...] about Assertiveness
Valentine’s Day Reimagined:
From Codependency to Self-Love
As we find ourselves on the cusp of another Valentine's Day, I can't help but reflect on how swiftly the past year has flown by. For many, including my former self, this day was fraught with emotional turmoil. My history as a self-critical, codependent individual made Valentine's Day a source of dread, whether I was entangled in a dysfunctional relationship or facing the day alone, yearning for companionship.
The Valentine's Day Struggle
In the past, Valentine's Day highlighted my … [Read more...] about Valentine’s Day Reimagined:
From Codependency to Self-Love
Spiritual Self-Care
When trying to figure out what your Spiritual self-care should be, take a look at what makes sense to you and go from there. There is no right or wrong way to do this – and you are spiritually safe right where you are. … [Read more...] about Spiritual Self-Care
Accepting “What Is”, Even When It’s Difficult
It is important to accept where we are when we love an addict. Self-Care is the most important goal to have – it will help you and it will become better role-modelling for the addict you love. Increasing your Self-Care is truly the best thing you can do for yourself and for everyone around you – a true win-win! … [Read more...] about Accepting “What Is”, Even When It’s Difficult
