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November 14, 2022 by Candace Plattor

Matthew Perry: Addiction and Recovery

Okay, I’ll admit it – I’m a “Friends” fan. I have been since its inception so many years ago, and I’ve been known to watch a rerun every now and then. That show told an amazing story of six young people with very different personalities, values, and opinions who simply loved each other through all of it and would always have each other’s backs. It was funny and heartwarming, all at the same time. My favourite character was Chandler Bing – I loved his irreverent sense of humour and, let’s face … [Read more...] about Matthew Perry: Addiction and Recovery

Filed Under: Addiction recovery Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction recovery, Helping vs. Enabling, Recovery from addiction

November 7, 2022 by Candace Plattor

How likely is it someone will relapse if they have several years clean and sober?

M.R. asks: I’ve heard that relapse is a “normal” part of recovery. Is that true? How likely is it that someone will relapse if they have several years clean and sober? *** Hi M.R., It’s more unlikely that people with a number of consecutive years in recovery will relapse, compared with people who are in early recovery and have a year or less clean and sober. That’s because the longer a person remains abstinent from the mind-altering substances or mood-altering behaviours that they used before … [Read more...] about How likely is it someone will relapse if they have several years clean and sober?

Filed Under: Ask Candace Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction recovery

October 26, 2022 by Candace Plattor

If You Want Your Addicted Loved One to Change, You Must Change Yourself First

Expecting the addict in your life to change if you’re not willing to do the same is not only unfair - but it also won’t work well.  Although your addict is responsible for his or her own choices and behaviours, as the loved one you bear some responsibility for any ways that you have contributed to these dysfunctional patterns - and you must be willing to change those first, before the addict you love so dearly will be willing to change what they have been doing. … [Read more...] about If You Want Your Addicted Loved One to Change, You Must Change Yourself First

Filed Under: Recovery from addiction Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction and Codependency, Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery, dysfunctional patterns, Helping vs. Enabling

October 24, 2022 by Candace Plattor

Is it okay for a drug addict in recovery to drink?

Joanne asks: My sister has had problems with addiction on and off for about 5 years. She’s been to a couple of rehabs, and she has been clean now for about 6 months. We’re all very proud of her but we’re also worried. She was mostly using cocaine and pills, and because she wasn’t much of a drinker she now thinks it’s okay for her to drink socially since it wasn’t her “drug of choice.” Is it okay for a drug addict in recovery to drink? *** Hi Joanne, This is a great question that many family … [Read more...] about Is it okay for a drug addict in recovery to drink?

Filed Under: Ask Candace Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction recovery

October 12, 2022 by Candace Plattor

Learn How to Use the Serenity Prayer in Your Own Life

The Serenity Prayer tells us that we need to “accept the things we cannot change” and to have “the courage to change the things we can.”  First and foremost, we need to understand that we cannot change another person, even though we want to believe we can. Although we might be able to influence other people, the only person we can ever really change is ourselves – and we need to develop the courage to do that when our thoughts and our actions aren’t serving us well. … [Read more...] about Learn How to Use the Serenity Prayer in Your Own Life

Filed Under: Recovery from addiction Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction and Codependency, Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery, Helping vs. Enabling

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