Want to End the Pain and Suffering
of Addiction – Forever?
- Are you feeling scared and ashamed about your family member’s addiction?
- Are you fed up watching your loved one destroy their life?
- Are you at your wit’s end, having tried everything you can think of to make them stop?
Candace Plattor, M.A.
International Award-Winning Author
Having an addicted person in your life can be a nightmare!
Welcome! We know how alone you can feel when addiction is tearing your family apart. That’s why we offer you a warm, supportive community of Loved Ones of addicts – we’re very glad you’ve found us!
Loving someone who has an addiction problem is often like being trapped on a roller-coaster of chaotic and painful emotions.
You never know what’s going to happen from one moment to the next. It can be like living in a re-occurring nightmare that you can’t seem to wake up from.
The ongoing lies and the broken promises, the constant worry and fear, the dwindling hope that someday things will change…
This can be a very isolating and frightening experience.
The fear, guilt, and shame that Loved Ones of addicts often feel can lead to them withdrawing into their own unique world, unwilling – or perhaps feeling unable – to ask for the help they need.
And yet – it is this outside perspective, continuing support, and a sense of belonging that can often make the biggest difference in learning to love oneself, despite the challenging circumstance of navigating life with an addict.
Whether the addict in your life is your spouse,
partner, parent, child, friend, or colleague,
the good news is that there is a way
to end your suffering and…
Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself:
The Online Support Program
shows you how.
Building on my award-winning book, Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself: The Top 10 Survival Tips for Loving Someone with an Addiction, this Online Support Program goes beyond the pertinent information…
…to offer Community, Group Support, and access to trained Counsellors who are collectively there to support you through this challenging experience, as your journey of transformation unfolds….
It doesn’t matter what kind of addictive behavior your loved one is struggling with.
It could be alcohol and drug misuse; an eating disorder; smoking; gambling; an Internet, relationship, or sex addiction; compulsive shopping and over-spending – or any combination of the above.
All addictions have negative consequences for the Loved Ones as well.
It’s not news that many family and friends get caught in the vicious “cycle of addiction” and don’t know how to untangle themselves from the spiral of destruction that the addict is engaging in.
Hi Candace, I just wanted to tell you how much I enjoyed your book and think I should buy a case of them to hand out to all our family! I have been at two family workshops, one in Alberta where I did start to learn a lot and then a month later in the US where my daughter is currently in rehab. It has been quite a journey to understanding all of this and what my job is as the mother of an addict. I just felt so compelled to email you and tell you that you wrote an awesome book and that I will continue to share with others bits and pieces of it… Thanks again!
– Gina M.
This Lifeline Is for You If:
- Your addict is running your life, your family feels out of control, and you feel powerless.
- You’ve spent so much time and money trying everything you can think of and nothing has worked.
- You want to know what you can do to fix this problem and end your family’s struggle forever.
Are you ready to do whatever it takes to help your addict recover and to reclaim a happy life for you and your family?
Here’s how the Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself Online Support Program works:
- Access to the complete Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself book, audiobook and workbook in a Private, Members-Only & Password-Protected Online Membership Site.
These resources, including my life-saving Top 10 Survival Tips, will help you navigate your journey with more clarity and serenity.
Each section of this program includes worksheets, so that you can begin the personal inner work necessary to Love Yourself, while also supporting your addicted loved one to stop their addictive behaviors.
Access to the online resources never expire. They are yours to keep and use forever, as often as you need to.
- 6 Months Access to Group Support Resources, so you have someone to hold your hand through the toughest times and assist you on your journey of transformation. These resources include:
- A Private, 100% Confidential Peer Support Group on Facebook where you can share your situation with others who are in similar circumstances.
This group is totally secure! No one outside of the group will know you are part of this group or be able to see anything you share.
- Monthly Telephone Support Group Calls, facilitated by a Certified Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself Counselor.
Each month you’ll have the opportunity to join a Private Telephone Support Group Call, where you can share and ask questions about your current situation, while receiving advice on how to approach specific challenges.
- Monthly Facebook Live Q&A video sessions, hosted personally by Candace.
You’ll be able to submit your questions to me in advance and I will personally answer them in a monthly Q&A session, hosted in our Private Facebook Community.
We will also help you set up your Facebook page, if you need some assistance to do that.
** Please know that your privacy is paramount and assured! **
Access to the Monthly Telephone Support Group Calls, Private Facebook Community, and Facebook Live Q&A; sessions is for 6 Full Months!
Your Investment in the Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself Online Support Program is just $497 for the full 6 Months – and you’ll have access to the online program materials forever.
For less than my private clients pay for 2 sessions, you get 6 months of access to myself and my team of Certified Loving an Addict Counselors.
Hi Candace, I wanted to let you know how much I have enjoyed your book. I will definitely buy another copy to lend to others (or better still, to show them and then have them make a note to buy their own). My signed copy will be staying on my shelf!
I found it very easy to read, and it totally works as a sensible approach for so many of us stuck in our trying to “fix” or support an addict we love. I believe when someone is caught in the enabling role of a loved one, they can be helped by a sensible, clear approach. I like yours.
I also like your quotes. And personal stories….
I am so happy that I found your wonderful book – thank you!
We have never met nor have had any contact except through your most amazing book. The title grabbed my attention straight away so, I picked it up and started reading it.
You captivated me right from the very beginning. It was as if you were talking directly to me about all my very own thoughts and feelings and that is why I knew I needed this book for myself. I know already that it is going to change my life.
What People Are Saying:
Sound Strategies to Help Everyone
Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself: The Top 10 Survival Tips for Loving Someone with an Addiction by Candace Plattor provides a ten-step roadmap to regaining control over lives that have been sidetracked by an addict. Her approach, which is grounded in self-examination, self-respect and self-care, guides us through the changes we need to make in order to break the cycle that holds us at the addict’s beck and call.
From facing reality to rebuilding our lives, the strategies described by Candace apply not only to those with an addict in their lives but to anyone impacted by poor choices that have been made by ourselves or others.
Easy to read. Highly recommended. Congratulations on a terrific book!
– Josie S.
I just finished your book! I found it easy to read and straight forward. I like that you provided clear descriptions that set up examples of individual addictive cases, and showed practical solutions in how to address the various problems. I really liked the quotes at the beginning of each chapter, in fact, I looked forward to them because they were so insightful. I especially liked the chapter on Self Care and what to do to be sure I’m providing myself with the right kind of self-care, especially because I love someone who is addicted to heroin and other drugs.
You are so respectful toward your reader in how you make the book accessible to people of a wide age range, and of different spiritual orientations. Your book is so valuable to those of us who love someone with an addiction. I’ll be referring to it time and time again. A reference source of well-being. Well done, Candace!
This is a wonderful, practical book that gets straight to the point (or 10) without a lot of background noise that distracts from helping oneself, loved ones, friends and/or family. After all, at the end of the day, we may be the addict that we most need to love…?
Hi Candace, Thank you so much for your inspiring book and congratulations on your success! You are proof that we are able to turn our lives around for the better even when we are faced with very difficult circumstances. All the best to you!
‘Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself’ is such a straightforward approach to dealing with an addiction situation with a loved one or ourselves. One of Candace’s favorite sayings in the book is that “If nothing changes, nothing changes.” It is the desire to change our lives from where we have drifted into the paralysis of addictive and/or codependent behaviors to active steps of self-realization and care. Candace gives us the 10 most important survival tips on ‘how to’ get from there to here in this easy-to-read guide. For me, reading it was an epiphany that one can choose to change from ‘drift’ to ‘direction,’ and survive as a much stronger and more loving person. I give away new copies to friends and family because my book always stays by my bed to be read and re-read.
– Kathy F. MSc
My husband and I have worked with Candace since September 2015 when we found out that our daughter is a heroin addict. We have met with Candace on a regular basis; attended her weekend workshops and participated in her telephone support group. We have learnt so many aspects of life with an addict and the effect it has on loved ones. My friends ask me how I have been able to deal with the tragic situation as we have witnessed our daughter’s life spiral downward and I credit many of Candace’s coping strategies. We now make decisions as new situations occur with Candace’s words of advice in our heads.
We are both so grateful for Candace’s help and guidance as we live our lives in the midst of a nightmare. Candace’s book has been an excellent start in our journey of acceptance and coping when we realized that our daughter is an addict, which I have finally been able to share with many friends and family members, without having to feel the shame and guilt I felt before we met Candace.
Candace Plattor, M.A., is the author of the Award-Winning book, Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself as well as her accompanying Workbook and Audiobook.
Candace is an Addictions Therapist in private practice, specializing in working with the family and other loved ones of people who are struggling with addiction, in her unique and signature Family Addiction Therapy Program.
Candace believes that everyone in the family is affected by addiction and everyone needs to heal. For more than 25 years, she has been helping both addicts and their loved ones understand their dysfunctional behaviors and make healthier life choices.
Candace offers individual, couple, and family counseling in her Vancouver, British Columbia office and by telephone or Skype worldwide.
Candace’s ability to name the presence of addictive behaviors – regardless of who the addicts are in relationship with – was tremendously significant and freeing for me, both on a personal level and in my professional life as a therapist. She identifies clearly who is responsible for what, from the perspective of both the addict and the family member, and takes away the crippling effects of blame and shame. Her book has helped me tremendously and I recommend it highly to both my friends and clients.– Heather D.
- Lifetime access to the Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself content, via an online membership portal, including the audiobook, workbook and ebook.
- 6 Months Access to the entire Online Support Program which includes:
- A Private, Members-Only Facebook Group
- Monthly Telephone Support Group Calls
- Monthly Facebook Live Q&A Sessions with Candace
Count me in!
A must-read for anyone living with or loving an addict.
This is a must read for anyone who has lived with or loved someone dealing with addiction. The sub-title ‘The Top 10 Survival Tips for Loving Someone with an Addiction’ says it all. The author, Candace Plattor, although a therapist who specializes in addictive behaviors, also speaks from personal experience. It is written in a practical and empathetic manner that encourages the reader to save themselves first and live their own best life!
– Pamela Chatry, Personal Business Manager
Frequently Asked Questions
Will my membership be private?
Yes – absolutely. We understand your need for privacy as the Loved One of someone with an addiction, and we have made provisions for that.
The only people who will be able to be part of the Support Options are others who have registered and purchased their own copy of the Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself Online Support Program. This means that only others in the same situation you’re in will be part of the monthly Telephone Support Group, the monthly Q&A with Candace on Facebook Live, or the ongoing, private Facebook Group Page.
What if I’ve already bought the Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself book, workbook, or audiobook?
That is a great question and others have asked the same thing.
For those of you who have read the book, listened to the audiobook or have done some work in the Workbook, the primary difference between doing that on your own and doing it as part of the Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself Online Support Program will be the community you’ll be part of and the various avenues of support you’ll be receiving that way. For many people, this is the most important part of this Online Program.
The content pieces of the book/workbook/audiobook are available as an additional resource, broken up into easy-to- follow segments.
As you access these parts together, you will find yourself experiencing the holistic life transformation that you have been looking for – and the wonderful ripple effect is that the addict you love will very likely begin to make some shifts of their own as well.
I’ve tried everything – will this really work for me?
I have worked with thousands of clients over the years, and every one of them who have followed these strategies has reached their goals. The addicts in the family have stayed clean and sober – and most of all, the Loved Ones have gotten their lives back.
If you follow these strategies, they will work for you as well.
I can say this because they’ve worked for me too. As a recovering addict myself, I’ve been clean and sober for over 30 years – and my relationships with my loved ones are now healthy and healed.
Candace Plattor’s work has effected a powerful positive change in my life.
Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself was my crucial first step in breaking free from the ongoing pain of an abusive, addictive relationship. This little blue book is so wise and wonderful. It was instrumental in creating the joyful life I’m now living.
Thank you, Candace!
In her book, Candace Plattor outlines some of the major causes for ill health and unhappiness today—addictions. She especially focuses on how to help yourself if you are the loved one of an addict. Bravo to Candace, whose personal experience and brilliant counseling strategies are turning people’s lives around!
Caroline Sutherland, Author of The Body Knows and The Body Knows… How to Stay Young