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Candace Plattor, M.A.Registered Clinical Counsellor
Candace Plattor, M.A.
Registered Clinical Counsellor
If nothing ever changed, there would be no butterflies.

self-respect

November 8, 2023 by Candace Plattor

The Vicious Cycle of Low Self-Respect

Self-respect is an ‘inside job’ – we develop it by doing the next right thing for ourselves and then the next right thing after that. I can’t give you your self-respect and you can’t give me mine. But we can encourage each other to take the best care of ourselves that we can, because active addiction and self-respect cannot coexist. I know which one I choose today – how about you? … [Read more...] about The Vicious Cycle of Low Self-Respect

Filed Under: Addiction Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction recovery, self-respect

September 28, 2022 by Candace Plattor

Self-Care Leads to Self-Respect

When we take better care of ourselves, we begin to feel much better holistically.  As we take our needs off the back burner - where they have never belonged in the first place - and take more ownership of what we actually can control (ourselves), we can stop rescuing others and thus help them develop their own resiliency. In this way, we can contribute to others feeling better about themselves as well.   … [Read more...] about Self-Care Leads to Self-Respect

Filed Under: Self-Respect Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery, Healthy self-care, self-respect

September 14, 2022 by Candace Plattor

Holistic Self-Care Is Vital to a Healthy Recovery

The importance of balanced self-care cannot be overstated - both for you and for the addict you love.  When we take care of ourselves, we develop our self-respect, which in turn lowers our need for choosing addictive behaviours. Whether it’s you deciding to stop any enabling you might be doing, or your addict making the decision to go into recovery, a sense of self-care and self-respect will be the springboard for these healthy choices. … [Read more...] about Holistic Self-Care Is Vital to a Healthy Recovery

Filed Under: Healthy self-care Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery, self-care, self-respect

August 29, 2022 by Candace Plattor

My daughter’s boyfriend mistreats her

SK asks: I keep hearing stories from my daughter about how awful her boyfriend is, how bad he treats her and how miserable she is but she won’t break up with him. What’s going on and how can I help? Hi SK, The reality is that you can’t make her do anything, such as break up with him. That won’t happen until she makes the choice that she is worth more than the kind of treatment she’s getting, and that she is interested in building her own self-respect. It’s possible that the best way to help … [Read more...] about My daughter’s boyfriend mistreats her

Filed Under: Ask Candace Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction and Codependency, Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery, self-respect

June 10, 2022 by Candace Plattor

The Name of the Game: How to Revive Your Ailing Self-Respect

Most of us are aware that we want to be treated with respect by other people. You probably find yourself becoming upset, angry or hurt when someone acts in a disrespectful way toward you, because it feels as if that person does not value you enough to treat you well. Self-Respect: What Exactly Is It? Self-respect works in the same way as being respected by others. When you value yourself enough to treat yourself well, you are acting in a self-respecting way. If you take good care of yourself … [Read more...] about The Name of the Game: How to Revive Your Ailing Self-Respect

Filed Under: Articles Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction and Codependency, Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery, Healthy self-care, Helping vs. Enabling, self-respect, Setting boundaries with addicted loved ones

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