When you love someone who is still in active addiction, it’s easy to become emotionally enmeshed in all of their ongoing chaos and drama. Here is a simple gauge you can use for your own self-assessment.
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When you love someone who is still in active addiction, it’s easy to become emotionally enmeshed in all of their ongoing chaos and drama. Here is a simple gauge you can use for your own self-assessment.
Alma Ruiz says
I recently found out that my son(25) failed his attempt to quit smoking pot after making a true effort to overcome his addiction… my heart sank!!
He’s been struggling with his addiction for a long time. Three years ago I had him on inpatient treatment, but since there are no sober-living facilities here in my area, he continued using shortly after rehab. (we live in Northwest Mexico)
after reading your book, I found the courage to ask him to move out of my house, but I did not stop paying for his therapy nor his meals… the limits I sat for myself, have worked so far because he’s respectful and punctual when we meet… I feel really sad for him, since I can’t afford to pay for another rehab…. and I see him suffer sincerely….
Candace Plattor says
Hi Alma, thank you for sharing your thoughts with us with so much honesty. I know that a lot of other loved ones of addicts will be able to strongly relate to what you’ve said here.
There may still be more work for you to do around setting and maintaining boundaries – with consequences that will mean something to your son. At Love With Boundaries, this is exactly what we help family and other loved ones learn to do – as well as why it’s so important to do this for the addict you love so deeply. It’s actually the most loving thing you can do for him, because doing this gives him the best possible chance of recovering from his addiction. If you’d like to have a 30-minute free consultation with us to tell us a little more about what’s going on with you and see how we can help you, please fill out our Questionnaire. Once we have received it, we will be back in touch with you to schedule the consultation ASAP – because we know that addiction doesn’t wait. Here is the link for the Questionnaire: https://lovewithboundaries.com/intake-questionnaire/ I hope we hear back from you.