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Candace Plattor, M.A.Registered Clinical Counsellor
Candace Plattor, M.A.
Registered Clinical Counsellor
If nothing ever changed, there would be no butterflies.

Recovery from addiction

March 9, 2022 by Candace Plattor

Addicts Need to Understand Their Own Resiliency

Focusing all of your attention on the addict in your life – especially if they are still choosing to stay in active addiction – is not good for either of you. When we consistently do for them what they can – and should – be doing for themselves, we enable them by robbing them of the feeling of knowing their own resiliency. This keeps you in a state of worry and keeps the addict stuck in addictive behaviours. … [Read more...] about Addicts Need to Understand Their Own Resiliency

Filed Under: Recovery from addiction Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction and Codependency, Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery, loving an addict

December 22, 2021 by Candace Plattor

Allowing the Addict You Love to Be Uncomfortable in Their Addiction

When an addict becomes “comfortable” remaining in active addiction, they will have no real incentive to do anything different. When we take care of their needs – financial, physical, and emotional – so that they are not required to do much, if anything, for themselves, then we also take away their chance at a real and lasting recovery. … [Read more...] about Allowing the Addict You Love to Be Uncomfortable in Their Addiction

Filed Under: Recovery from addiction Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery, loving an addict

December 8, 2021 by Candace Plattor

Let’s Give Addicts Their Power Back!

In my opinion, our society has become the worst ‘addict’ walking our streets. Its drug of choice? An old, outdated way of thinking that’s actually keeping our world stuck in the horrors of addiction. We’ve been taught to believe that addicts are powerless. Twelve-step programs have, for decades, been our country’s go-to solution for addiction in all of its forms. These programs teach us to implement Steps that are based on the notion that there’s a disease to blame, and that the only solution … [Read more...] about Let’s Give Addicts Their Power Back!

Filed Under: Recovery from addiction Tagged With: Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery, loving an addict, Recovery from addiction

July 24, 2019 by Candace Plattor

The Law of Attraction: Help for Addiction Recovery

I have come to realize that most people – myself included sometimes – generally go through their days from beginning to end with no real plan, focus, or intention. They usually know the basics of what’s going to happen: wake up, groggily get ready for the day in terms of hygiene and breakfast, dress themselves in something appropriate, and head out the door for work or school. Then, when they get to their destination, it’s usually same-old same-old. They see the same people, do the same kinds … [Read more...] about The Law of Attraction: Help for Addiction Recovery

Filed Under: Recovery from addiction Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction recovery, Intention, Law of Attraction

July 10, 2017 by Candace Plattor

30 Years Clean & Sober: My Gratitude Speaks

On July 18, 2017, just a few days from now, I will be celebrating 30 years of continued recovery—primarily from prescription pills and pot. As I look back on these years, what I know for sure is that I definitely feel as if I’ve been born again within this one lifetime. So how did this happen? Truly, when I first started my recovery from addiction, if anyone had told me that I would someday have 30 years, I would have told them they were crazy. I couldn’t see past my own nose, at that point. … [Read more...] about 30 Years Clean & Sober: My Gratitude Speaks

Filed Under: Recovery from addiction Tagged With: active recovery, Addiction, Addiction recovery, Recovery from addiction

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