First published on December 14, 2012. Has anyone else noticed how early the Christmas chaos began this year? I recall a few years ago here in Vancouver, a number of people became so disgruntled by the early onset of Christmas music in some of the stores—in the middle of October—that they took to Facebook en masse and complained. One store in particular, Shoppers Drug Mart, appeased the naysayers by stopping that music, but only after they drew their line in the sand, assuring us that the … [Read more...] about Addicted to Christmas Chaos? Taming the Madness this Holiday Season
Healthy self-care
Holistic Self-Care When Loving an Addict
Recently, while working with a client (I’ll call her Jane) who is the loved one of an addict, she made a significant discovery. We were talking about the importance of Jane’s self-care, an important subject I frequently discuss with all of my clients. She looked at me with tears in her eyes and said, “I don’t feel like I know how to take care of myself—I don’t know what I want or how to ask for it.”“I don’t know how to set healthier boundaries because I don’t even know what those boundaries … [Read more...] about Holistic Self-Care When Loving an Addict
When You’re Going Through Hell, Keep on Going: Having the Courage to Stay the Course
What I Know TodayAfter over 25 years of working with clients struggling with addiction—and those who so dearly love them—not too much surprises me anymore. Not only have I survived many of my own difficult past experiences, I’ve also heard about—and witnessed—a great many traumatic stories from both addicts and their loved ones. I’m constantly awed by the resilience of the human spirit, especially when people have the intention to rise above the tremendous grief that could otherwise totally take … [Read more...] about When You’re Going Through Hell, Keep on Going: Having the Courage to Stay the Course
From Fantasy to Reality on Valentine’s Day: Loving Yourself with Healthy Self-Care
First published on February 11, 2013Ah, Valentine's Day, the fantasy-filled holiday that comes right after we've managed to get ourselves through another year of Christmas and New Year's Eve!Have you ever wondered whose bright idea it was to have those three holidays in a row? For many people, the 3-month period of December through February can be the most difficult and depressing time of the year, and this is especially true for those whose significant relationships are problematic. For people … [Read more...] about From Fantasy to Reality on Valentine’s Day: Loving Yourself with Healthy Self-Care
Rob Ford and Jimmy Kimmel: A Shameful Travesty
I have written about Rob Ford before, discussing with compassion how unhealthy I believe he is in a variety of ways—what it must be like to be his wife and children, how enabled he’s surely been to have developed into this kind of person who appears to be totally incapable of seeing himself clearly.Although I admit I was curious about what would transpire when he and Jimmy Kimmel met face-to-face in front of the hot lights and unforgiving cameras of TV land, I can’t say that I was exactly … [Read more...] about Rob Ford and Jimmy Kimmel: A Shameful Travesty