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Candace Plattor, M.A.Registered Clinical Counsellor
Candace Plattor, M.A.
Registered Clinical Counsellor
If nothing ever changed, there would be no butterflies.

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April 3, 2023 by Candace Plattor

How Can I Make My Son Go to Rehab?

D.H. Asks: My son has been using drugs, as well as stealing and lying to us, for a lot of years now. We’ve tried to help him in every way we can because we don’t want to see him on the street or in jail, but we are feeling really tired of all of it now. How do we make him go to rehab and change his life? Hi D.H., Unfortunately, there is no way to “make” another person do anything, no matter how hard we may try. That’s because: (a) We are powerless over other people and (b) We live on a … [Read more...] about How Can I Make My Son Go to Rehab?

Filed Under: Ask Candace Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction and Codependency, Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery, Helping vs. Enabling, Setting boundaries with addicted loved ones

March 6, 2023 by Candace Plattor

Boundaries on family trips

M.W. Asks: What boundaries do you suggest for family trips? I've thought about reserving my own lodging, but that can be expensive. However, staying in the same hotel room with my spouse (an active addict) takes an emotional toll and discolors my ability to enjoy my stay. So other than reserving my own room, what boundaries could I set? Thank you. Thanks for reaching out with your question. I will first ask whether you’ve thought about the possibility of not going on this particular family … [Read more...] about Boundaries on family trips

Filed Under: Ask Candace Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction and Codependency, Addiction in the family, Setting boundaries with addicted loved ones

January 30, 2023 by Candace Plattor

My brother needs ongoing help for past trauma

Hi Candace, I have just returned from a crisis situation that happened while on vacation in Thailand. What was supposed to be a 2.5-week focus on my physical/mental health turned into discovering my brother who lives there, was so far gone with alcohol. A 26er a day of vodka, disgusting living conditions and had many people enabling him with $$ and a very toxic Thai girlfriend. I was able to get him 3 days after I arrived on Koh Samui to a facility I could afford. It was the longest day of my … [Read more...] about My brother needs ongoing help for past trauma

Filed Under: Ask Candace Tagged With: Addiction and Codependency, Addiction in the family, Helping vs. Enabling, Setting boundaries with addicted loved ones

January 9, 2023 by Candace Plattor

My adult son wants money for his account in jail

BD Asks: I have an adult son who is an alcohol/drug addict. He has been in and out of treatments and jail multiple times. He is in jail right now and wants me to put money on his account so he can get extra food and make phone calls. I am torn as to what I should do, I don’t want to enable him anymore as I know I have been. But I also know when he is not using he eats like he is starving… I don’t know what to do? --- Hello, thank you for submitting your question to “Ask Candace”. I’m very … [Read more...] about My adult son wants money for his account in jail

Filed Under: Ask Candace Tagged With: Addiction and Codependency, Addiction in the family, Helping vs. Enabling, Setting boundaries with addicted loved ones

November 21, 2022 by Candace Plattor

How do I stay firm in my decision with an addict?

T.C. Asks: How do you stay firm in your decision to want out of a relationship with an addict who has an it’s-only-on-weekends-I-can-control-it attitude? I have been doing this for 27 years and I don't know how to make this individual understand a weekend is not only a weekend, it’s sending them back into addiction. I have grown tired, and because this individual works every day and doesn't spend money on their habits, I am supposed to ignore the concerns for their health, etc. Hi … [Read more...] about How do I stay firm in my decision with an addict?

Filed Under: Ask Candace Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction and Codependency, Addiction recovery, Helping vs. Enabling, Setting boundaries with addicted loved ones

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