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Candace Plattor, M.A.Registered Clinical Counsellor
Candace Plattor, M.A.
Registered Clinical Counsellor
If nothing ever changed, there would be no butterflies.

Addiction and Codependency

February 9, 2022 by Candace Plattor

Another Valentine’s Day: Codependent Nightmare or Ultimate Self-Care?

I don’t know about you, but 2021 went by quickly for me – and here we are again, almost at Valentine’s Day. In my past, as a brutally self-trashing codependent woman, this was always one of my least favourite days – because I was either in a dysfunctional relationship or I was alone and lonely, wishing desperately that I was partnered with someone – anyone. Either way, the approach of Valentine’s Day didn’t bode well for me. … [Read more...] about Another Valentine’s Day: Codependent Nightmare or Ultimate Self-Care?

Filed Under: Addiction and Codependency Tagged With: Addiction and Codependency, Addiction recovery, Healthy self-care, self-care, Valentine's Day

November 10, 2021 by Candace Plattor

Dealing with Conflict When You Love an Addict

If you love an addict who is in active addiction, you are likely experiencing passivity and aggression from them – usually in a back-and-forth manner. They can go from hiding out quietly in their rooms to loudly demanding what they want in an entitled way – and they can make that shift very quickly. If you are codependent with them, giving in so that you can avoid conflict, you may never know when the next shoe will drop – when the next aggressive, entitled demand may come your way. But once … [Read more...] about Dealing with Conflict When You Love an Addict

Filed Under: Addiction and Codependency Tagged With: Addiction and Codependency, Addiction in the family, Helping vs. Enabling, loving an addict

November 22, 2019 by Candace Plattor

A New Way to Understand Addiction

There are many schools of thought about addiction and what it really is. Some people consider it to be a physical disease, while others credit genetic predisposition while also addressing the nature/nurture paradigm. Even if some or all ring true for each of us, what I know to be true—as an addict in recovery for nearly 33 years, as a loved one of addicts, and as a professional addiction therapist for three decades—is that underneath all of this, staying in active addiction is a choice. And … [Read more...] about A New Way to Understand Addiction

Filed Under: Addiction and Codependency Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction and Codependency, Addiction in the family, Addiction recovery, loving an addict

September 20, 2019 by Candace Plattor

Loving Someone with an Addiction: A Life of Chaos

Whether your addicted loved one is a parent, a child, a partner, friend, or colleague, loving someone who is actively engaging in addictive behaviours is one of the most difficult ways to live. This is because addicts who continue to be involved with their own self-destructive patterns typically experience many emotional highs and lows, creating a virtual roller coaster of fantasy followed by severe despondency, remorse, and self-loathing, with every conceivable emotion in between. Addicts … [Read more...] about Loving Someone with an Addiction: A Life of Chaos

Filed Under: Addiction and Codependency Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction in the family, Helping vs. Enabling, loving an addict, self-care

March 2, 2016 by Candace Plattor

Addiction and Codependency: The Top 10 Reasons to Stop Enabling the Addict You Love, Part 2

Continued from article posted February 24th. Click here to read Reasons 10 to 6.#5 – Others around you are watching what you’re doing.When we deal with an addict of any kind, there are always ripple effects that occur—positive or negative.Consider a scenario such as this: Your teen or adult child is actively using drugs or other addictive behaviours. If you are enabling this person and you have other children, they will be watching as you ‘favour’ the addict, even while the others are trying to … [Read more...] about Addiction and Codependency: The Top 10 Reasons to Stop Enabling the Addict You Love, Part 2

Filed Under: Addiction and Codependency, Helping vs. Enabling Tagged With: Addiction, Addiction and Codependency, Addiction in the family, Helping vs. Enabling, loving an addict, Setting boundaries with addicted loved ones

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