As we find ourselves on the cusp of another Valentine's Day, I can't help but reflect on how swiftly the past year has flown by. For many, including my former self, this day was fraught with emotional turmoil. My history as a self-critical, codependent individual made Valentine's Day a source of dread, whether I was entangled in a dysfunctional relationship or facing the day alone, yearning for companionship.
The Valentine's Day Struggle
In the past, Valentine's Day highlighted my … [Read more...] about Valentine’s Day Reimagined:
From Codependency to Self-Love
Addiction and Codependency
Valentine’s Day Reimagined:
Ask Yourself Some Important Questions
When we focus too much on the addict in our lives, we can lose ourselves in the process. Asking ourselves some deeper questions and answering them as honestly as possible can help us find ourselves again. … [Read more...] about Ask Yourself Some Important Questions
An Addict’s Manipulations Will Stop When We No Longer Allow It to Happen
The only way that an addict (or anyone else) in your life can continue to use and manipulate you is with your permission. Many loved ones of addicts are terrified of having to deal with conflict – so they say “Yes” when they really want to say “No.” But when they learn how to deal with conflict assertively and effectively with healthy boundaries and consequences that mean something to the addict, they will no longer put themselves in a position to be manipulated. … [Read more...] about An Addict’s Manipulations Will Stop When We No Longer Allow It to Happen
Become the Change You Want to See
If you want your addict to change, the truth is that you will need to be willing to change first. When it becomes clear that what you’ve been doing isn’t working, you’ll need to be willing to try something different. Taking good care of yourself is not only going to help you shift and grow, it’s also going to be the best role-modelling that you can give to the addict you love. It’s a classic win-win. … [Read more...] about Become the Change You Want to See
The Courage to Change the Things I Can
It’s easy to blame somebody else for the way we’re feeling - or for what’s going wrong in our lives. But the truth is that, although others may be contributing to our difficulties, it is our own responsibility to change things if we’re not happy. And since the only thing we can really change is ourselves, that is truly the best place to start! … [Read more...] about The Courage to Change the Things I Can
